In this passage from It Starts at Home, Kurt Bruner discusses something that really isn’t that secret . . . and yet it’s so true and vitally important. Read on . . .
“Have you ever known one of those couples who have been blessed with terrific kids? You know the ones. They are the family you watch from afar, wondering how in the world they got so lucky, or did so well. It is almost as if they have discovered a secret formula for raising great kids.
“We have been fortunate over the years to build relationship with some of these couples, watching them over the long haul as they navigate the varied and perilous stages of parenthood. Their children have grown from little kids to young adults and, though imperfect, have turned out quite well. Many of them are approaching the end of the parenting journey and are reaping the rewards of having done some things right.
“What is this ‘secret formula’ for successfully passing on our values to the next generation? What is the common thread between these and other homes that seem to have beaten the odds in parenting? As we’ve watched over the years, we have noticed the same important ingredient. The specific tone and makeup of each family varies, but the ‘secret formula’ is the same. Every one of these couples discovered and mastered the art of enjoying their children and allowing their children to enjoy them. Put simply, they learned to create an environment where they had fun together!
“While much of this book is dedicated to principles and ideas for teaching our kids, it all assumes a context of enjoying our kids. That, we believe, is one of the most important ingredients for increasing the parenting odds.
“Everyone has the right to speak. We must earn the right to be listened to. As parents we must realize that when we play with our kids today, we are earning the right to shape their values tomorrow. Remember that they are more likely to embrace the values of someone they love and enjoy than someone they don’t. So let’s adopt the ‘secret formula’ that seems to have worked so well for so many parents. Let’s have fun with our kids!”
Nehemiah 8:10 says “The joy of the Lord is your strength.” Is your home filled with that joy? Not a cheap imitation called “entertainment,” but real, genuine joy and enjoyment of one another? Begin to look for ways to enjoy your family today . . . God will help you, and you and they will never be the same again!
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